A mother’s message: Be compassionate to those struggling with infertility

CARMEL, Ind. — In just a few days, we'll celebrate moms across the country for all they do and the joy they bring.

But Mother’s Day can be especially difficult for some people. For Ellen Casolaro, the holiday used to be a painful reminder of what she didn’t have.

“It was like standing at the bottom of a giant mountain thinking, how are we going to do this?” Casolaro said.

For years, she and her husband Matt struggled to have a baby, eventually turning to IVF. The first treatment was successful, but Ellen miscarried just nine weeks into the pregnancy.

“We had to mourn through that and let my body heal,” she explained.

For many, the holiday can serve as a reminder of what no longer is or never was.

“Many people long to have children, so Mother’s Day is this painful reminder of the inability to conceive,” said Dr. Bradford Bopp of Midwest Fertility Specialists.

Eventually, the wait was over for the Casolaro's. After another IVF treatment, they learned they were expecting twins. Then, a year ago, they welcomed another bundle of joy.

“When I look at them, that’s what I see. Just gratefulness," Casolaro said.

There are resources in the Indianapolis area if you need support. Resolve Indy hosts free monthly support group for couples to share their infertility stories and struggles.

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