(March 29, 2016) – Rory Feek talks about his 2-year-old daughter’s reaction to his wife Joey’s death in his latest post on the blog “This Life I Live.”
According to Rory, for the first year and a half of their daughter Indiana’s life, Joey was her whole world. She was so attached to Joey that “all she wanted was to be with her, beside her or in-sight of her.”
But last November when Joey realized that she wasn’t going to beat her cancer, she purposely distanced herself from Indy. “And she started going against everything in her being that told her “time was short” so hold her baby even tighter… and longer… and more… and instead – she handed the baby to me, and sat alone in a bed and watched and listened as my relationship with Indy grew…and hers lessened.”
According to Rory, Joey’s strategy worked in the most bittersweet way, and Indy has not asked for her mother once since her death. “It’s almost as if she hasn’t noticed that she’s not here. And that is so sad… and oh, so wonderful – all at the same time.”
Joey, 40, lost her two-year battle with cancer on March 4. After Joey’s death, Rory and Indy moved from Alexandria, Indiana back to their home in Tennessee. Joey was buried near their family’s farm, and Rory and Indy visit her gravesite daily.
“No, Indy doesn’t quite understand what has happened. Why her papa is sad. Why friends hug us so tightly, and why tears fall from strangers’ eyes when they say hello to us. But she will. She may not realize right now how incredible her mama is, but she will. I have made a career out of documenting our lives, and her mother… with songs and video and pictures and they are everywhere. I will play them for her. And tucked away in her little heart will be all of the beautiful memories of these first two years that she has shared with her mama and when the time is right, she will find them and they will make her smile. Yes she will remember. I believe that,” writes Rory.